START YOUR JOURNEY
Independent surrogacy advice from a gay dad of three, before you choose a programme.
Independent surrogacy advice matters because international surrogacy decisions are legal, medical, financial and personal all at once. I help gay men and other intended parents in the UK, Ireland and Europe compare their routes. Together, we challenge assumptions and prepare the right questions before you commit to an agency, clinic or programme.
The Surrogacy Father grew out of our own journey. Paul and I became dads to three children through surrogacy and egg donation. It was life-changing and deeply emotional. Because we have walked this path ourselves, we understand how overwhelming and uncertain it can feel.
Today, I offer the support we once wished for: honest advice, personal insight and grounded reassurance from someone who has done it before. So you don’t have to work it all out alone.
Whether you are just starting out or already deep into research, there are two main ways I can help:
Not ready for a package? You can also book a free 15-minute call, a 30-minute Quick Decision Check or a 60-minute Pathway Review.
I support individuals and couples, both LGBTQ+ and heterosexual, to build families through ethical, well-regulated surrogacy. In particular, I focus on Europe and North and South America. I also follow developments in Africa and Asia.
I am independent of any clinic, agency or law firm. As a result, my guidance centres on your goals, your circumstances and your budget, and every decision stays with you.
I follow changes to laws, programmes and providers closely, then share what matters on the blog and on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, TikTok and YouTube. That way, you can understand the pros and cons of each destination before you commit.
Wherever you are in your surrogacy journey, from first questions to final paperwork, I’m here to help you move forward with confidence.
“Helping people become parents isn’t just my job—it’s a privilege.”
– Founder, The Surrogacy Father
So, let’s get started!
Thinking about surrogacy but not sure where to start? In this short, relaxed call, we talk through where you are, what you need and whether surrogacy is the right path for you. There’s no pressure and no sales pitch.
The call is completely free. However, it’s a starting conversation rather than personal advice on your case..
Over eight weeks and three video calls, we turn a confusing list of options into a shortlist of two or three realistic routes. Along the way, we compare legal steps, full costs and risks. You then leave with a written due diligence plan. The price is £1,250.
Once you have chosen a route, I stay beside you as an independent second opinion. Each month you get a 45-minute call and two detailed written answers, plus the complete 12-Part Essential Surrogacy Guide. It costs £2,750.
The Surrogacy Father aims to make international surrogacy clearer, fairer and less lonely for intended parents, wherever they live.
We picture a world where every intended parent feels informed, supported and respected. That should be true whatever your family looks like and whichever border you cross.
Through honest resources and real stories, we want to break down barriers and raise the standard of surrogacy education.
Our mission is simple: to help intended parents make safer, better-informed decisions about surrogacy. To do that, we share reliable information, practical tools and our own experience.
Above all, we want the process to feel less daunting, so you can focus on the family you are building.
